I have been aware for some time of the deterioration in certain standards we as a nation have valued for many years — civility, courtesy, kindness, gentlemanly behavior, respect for others. America was originally founded on the adherence to these principles – “all men are created equal … with certain inalienable rights such as life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness.”

It would seem unnecessary to remind people of such obvious desirable standards. However, recent events, including last week’s Senate hearings on the nomination of Brett Kavanaugh to the Supreme Court, indicate that this country has reached a new low in adherence to these tenets.

To observe the animosity in the attacks on Kavanaugh, as well as the ill-will between Democrats and Republicans, has destroyed any semblance of brotherhood and respect for those who disagree or hold opposite political opinions. Worse by far was the vile, abhorrent, and demeaning “Saturday Night Live” parody of Sen. Lindsay Graham speaking passionately in support of the nominee. It was the ultimate in cruelty and disrespect -- sad and demoralizing to watch, indicative of the nadir of decency to which this country has fallen.

Whatever happened to tolerance and compassion, fairness and temperance? A kind of erosion has permeated our culture and diminished, if not eradicated, its nobler virtues — gentlemanly behavior, forbearance in dealing with those of a different persuasion, dignity, cooperation, fellowship, honor, empathy, and compassion. In America, these have been gradually abandoned, as have other standards of dress, demeanor, comportment, and self-expression.

It is appalling to see scantily clad woman strutting their stuff in public for all to partake as if they were on a private beach. I cringe each time I hear the “F” word so liberally punctuating ordinary conversation. I am horrified when I see that vulgar gesture used by drivers frustrated by a car proceeding too slowly, before swerving around and passing angrily with squealing tires. Such unnecessary drama and juvenile expenditure of energy!

Additionally, it is seldom that one sees young and able-bodied individuals give up their seat to someone elderly, pregnant, or handicapped — a considerate gesture those of my generation were taught to offer. Even the tone and volume of conversations often assail the ears as people shout at each other, yell across wide spaces, argue their points vehemently as if pleading a case in the courtroom.

What has happened to our gentler spirits? Our shared humanity? The soothing and calming tone of softer voices? Kinder hearts? Convivial interaction? Tact and diplomacy? Efforts that engender and promote harmony rather than sow and encourage dissonance? Where is style and grace?

Have we abandoned all attempts to simply be nice to each other? At the Pan-American Exposition in 1901, Pres. William McKinley advised: “Let us remember that our interest is in accord; not in conflict; and that our real eminence rests in the victories of peace …” Is that still so today?

For the benefit and endurance of our great nation, all Americans need to be cognizant that “The greatest of all arts is the art of living together” (William Lyon Phelps).

Donna DeLeo Bruno

Bristol