After 25 years, gun violence still haunts former Bristol student

After 25 years, gun violence still haunts former Bristol student

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Steven Bernard speaks to eighth grade students at Kickemuit Middle School about the impact of bullying and violence in school.

Steven Bernard speaks to eighth grade students at Kickemuit Middle School about the impact of bullying and violence in school.
Steven Bernard speaks to eighth grade students at Kickemuit Middle School about the impact of bullying and violence in school.
Twenty-five years after a bullet to the head nearly killed him, former bully Steven Bernard still bears the scars, physical and emotional, of that cold day in 1988 at Bristol High School.

He drags his left leg when he walks. His left arm hangs lifeless at his side. And his head still shows the path the bullet took after the young man who’d been bullied had finally had enough of it all and decided to take revenge.

“If anyone wants to feel the bullet in my head you can. It’ll cost you a dollar though,” Mr. Bernard recently joked to a group of eighth graders at Kickemuit Middle School, where he traveled to talk about the harmful effects of bullying. The truth, though, isn’t funny.

In 1988, Mr. Bernard was the big man on campus at Bristol High School, now Mt. Hope High School. He had lots of friends and was a star athlete who excelled in baseball, football and basketball. He was only a sophomore, but already he showed promise that he’d be a candidate for athletic scholarships.

“My dream was to play football in college,” he said.

But he was also a bully, and Vincent Isabelle, 15, was his regular victim. Throughout the school year, Mr. Bernard picked on Vinny. He shoved him into lockers, called him derogatory names, made his life miserable. Mr. Bernard’s friends encouraged the ridicule, egging him on and laughing.

Vinny “and I just didn’t get along. He was an outcast. I was the popular jock. I bullied him, but back then it wasn’t called that.”

On Feb. 25, 1988, everything changed. That day, Vinny challenged Mr. Bernard to a fight after lunch in the courtyard. Anticipating the fight, the area filled with students.

“I told him it wouldn’t take long and he could take the first shot,” Mr. Bernard said, who now recognizes the significance of the words he chose.

“I didn’t say ‘take the first punch. I said take the first shot’,” he said.

Vinny pulled a .22 caliber handgun from his jean jacket pocket, pointed it at Mr. Bernard’s forehead and pulled the trigger.

“I remember looking down the barrel. I thought it was a squirt gun,” he said. Then he remembers lying on the ground, feeling warm blood run down his face.

It took Mr. Bernard six months to re-learn how to speak, walk and talk, but he’s never been the same. His left side is partially paralyzed and he is permanently disabled. Vinny spent the next three years in juvenile prison and moved away from the area after his release at age 18.

“As I look back, I was a nice kid. I was just caught up in a wrong situation. Bullies want power and control,” he said. “It made me feel good.”

Today, Mr. Bernard helps coach girl’s basketball at Barrington Middle School, and travels to schools to spread his anti-bullying message. Although his presentation begins with a 20-minute video of footage and 911 recordings of the school shootings at Columbine High School in Colorado, his message is not about stricter gun laws or banning firearms. It’s about the danger of remaining silent.

“My message is ‘silence hurts.’ What we need to do is get kids talking. We teach violence right from the beginning. Kids don’t know how to communicate. They walk around with headphones on or are texting. It ends with you.”

Mr. Bernard asked the eighth graders seated inside the auditorium to stand if they had ever seen acts of bullying, been a victim of bullying or were themselves a bully. Everyone in the group stood.

Students John Rodrigues and Rebeccah Trefethen said later that a lot of what he said was familiar to them. John said much of what he sees is “verbal bullying” like name calling. Rebeccah has seen examples in the cafeteria when students will “physically move a lunch table away” from another student.

However, students at Kickemuit also have resources Vinny didn’t have a quarter century ago. They are encouraged to speak with a guidance counselor or a favorite teacher if they want to report bullying or other unhealthy behaviors they see or are victims of. In addition, there are ‘bully boxes’ where students can submit names and activities they witness, as well as closed circuit monitors that can be reviewed to observe such behavior in the schools. None of those things existed in Mr. Bernard’s day.

“Back then it was teasing. Teachers saw it and didn’t say anything. That morning (Vinny) was showing the gun around and three students and three teachers saw it and didn’t say anything.”

Looking back, Mr. Bernard is sorry for his actions, and said he hopes students learn to make healthy choices when dealing with their peers,whether they’re being bullied or are the aggressors.

“What I did was wrong, but pulling the trigger was cowardly,” Mr. Bernard said. “Life is about choices, chances and consequences. If you see bullying tell an adult. Then it’s off your back and it’s in the hands of an adult.”

As for Vinny?

“If I saw him now and he said he was sorry, I’d tell him it was OK. I would shake his hand and be friends.”

Likewise, Mr. Bernard said he’d also offer an apology for bullying Vinny into the decision that changed two lives forever.

12 COMMENTS

  1. Who were those teachers that saw the gun and what ever happened to them? I don’t recall any of them being fired or even their names being mad e public.

    Steve mentions that pulling the trigger was cowardly, I hate what happened to you Steve, but you being the bully brought this action upon yourself. You admit that you bullied Vinny to the point where Vinny felt he needed to bring in a gun to school in order to stop you and your buddies from bullying him. You were the coward… Your cowardly act not only ruined your life, but also Vinny’s.

    I commend for speaking publicly about this subject and trying to stop it. I hope that you and your family have peace in your lives, I really do.

  2. my name is VINCENT A. ISABELLE II. i shot him. and at no point did Steven ever “pick on me”. sorry but I WAS there i know. YES i was the rocker the pot smoking type outcast. YES he was the jock.

    One day in middle school we were playing football and i made a touchdown. the kids laughed at him for i made the touchdown while he chased me down and failed.(the jock failed to get the rocker outcast type)thats like a jock being better at being a rocker than the rocker. well lets just say it pissed Steven off to no end.see kids don’t let **** go that easily an that hung over him til high school.

    i never gave it another though.by now i’m in high school i was into sex drugs and rock n roll. but Steven was still into sports with the same kids from middle school. the same kids that fucked his head up with me being “the one that got away”.it must have been rough on him trying to be good at something and people always bring up the past and throw it in your face. Steve you called me out to fix and to reclaim your pride. i’m not sure where you got the idea that you where some kind of bully. you are not that person you say you are . you was a smart dude and a athlete that found yourself with no way out but to show people that YOU COULD BEAT ME.

    YES STEVEN I’M SORRY. I had no right to do what i did. we will both live with the moment of me pulling out that gun. i hope now we can both R.I.P.

  3. I have to agree with Vinny….Yeah Vinny, that was so wrong in what you did, no question…But Steve Bernard has lied about this whole incident for a long long time just to keep himself in the limelight because as an overweight kid playing sports he was never in the limelight even though he always thought he was getting the wrong end of the political deal…He was NEVER A star athlete….he was slow and had bad knees ever since pop warner….He was NEVER A bully and for him to continue this facade for so long is shameful..His friends NEVER egged him on and I know this because I was one of his good friends…I am tired of keeping my mouth shut about the B.S he continues to speak…For some reason he is STILL upset that he wasn’t the athlete he thought he was as a kid and wasn’t making the headlines…And believe me, there were NO colleges looking at him for scholarships and anyone who knows anything about sports knows he was only in 8th grade and colleges aren’t even remotely interested….Again, I am sorry if this offends anyone but I am just so sick and tired of the bull**** stories he keeps telling and they keep printing in the papers…Time to move on with your life Steve and stop living in the past that you have made up…THIS IS THE TRUTH!!!

    • So it’s sad that he’s trying to help kids that are bullied, to me it sounds like a good role model, it makes no sense for you to say something like that seriously, do you even know what his family went through for the next 10 years after that happened, with all the bullshit that’s going on with bullying in this day and age there should be more people like him trying to help kids out,

  4. I remember that day. My son was also bullied. He is the reason I became an Advocate Against Bullying. I will be speaking at an event, Voices For The Children Against Bullying at The Rhode Island State House on Thursday, June 2, 2016 between 2-5 p.m. I encourage everyone to attend. Use your voice, share your stories. Give information regarding how you help to stop this ongoing issue. Any and all comments that do not include violence will be given a chance to speak at the podium with me. Take a stand for what is right. Help end this in 2016. I will provide informational flyers also an editorial that I wrote that was published in The Observer, for you to take and read. You’re our future, help those to have a better one with out Bullies. I am truly sorry for what happened to Vincent and Steven. I could have been prevented, however people chose to look the other way. Looking forward to seeing you there. Regards, Diane Richardson.

  5. I was Steve’s closest friend. He if you read the article says he had dreams of one day playing coll football. He was getting help from foxy marshal. I don’t think nutcrackers much to play football. He was a tough kid. And he told me he kicked binny *** because he threatened to hurt someone close to him. You loser know the facts. It just sounds like your jealous of him. Think about it. You know how strong you Gota be to survive a gun shot at close range. I’ll
    Pray for you

  6. You bunch of jerks. I was a coach when Steve pkayer and let me tell you if he didn’t get hurt he would have been a talked about athlete. I was a friend of his. He was friends with everyone not just the jocks. His friends thought they were dlk that. Steve has courage for doing what he does. As a coach back in 80s early 90s. Steve was the best kid of the bunch. Well liked. And for him to turn his life into a positive one. I think people are jealous of what he has accomplished. He has gone farther than all of his jock friends combined. He does it for right reason. I’m glad he’s always in news and papers. Just keep reading it and be happy to see that someone actually cares. Steve is an inspiration a hero and a person we all should look up too and be proud of. Oeriod

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